To all my friends new and old, I want to remind you that I am 19 years old and not a professional therapist or doctor! I have been told that I have a clear head and can help people see things in a new way, but please don’t consider my ideas as a substitute for a genuine medical consult.
If you have a problem or question, it can be safer to talk to someone like me; no judgments and no rumors posted all over Facebook! I call it like I see it and I really do care. You deserve a balanced opinion and I will do my best to answer your questions.
However, I know just enough to realize that I don’t know much! Take my input, and then think for yourself. In the end, you must do what you feel is right!
Also, if you are feeling depressed, sick or think you may be pregnant, professional medical care is really important! There are many doctors and counselors that will see you for free or at a rate you can afford. You are worth it!
Hi. I'm 14 and I'm in the 8th grade. There is a guy that I like, and I really want to ask him out. But I am shy and nervous. I am also afraid of being rejected, because I feel like i'm not good enough and not pretty, and weird. I've been rejected a lot in the past. I struggled with cutting myself recently. This boy I like used to cut himself too, and i'm pretty sure he understands, but then again i'm afraid he wont want to go out with me because of that. I just don't know what to do. I catch him looking at me and making eye contact with me sometimes, but i'm just not sure if he likes me or not. I really want to ask him out but i dont know how. I need help.
first of all, why do you cut yourself hun? that won't help anything and hurting yourself is the worst thing you can do for yourself right now. so stop! take care of yourself, your very valuable! and second, maybe invite this boy to hang out in town or invite him to something with friends, get a whole group of co-ed friends to hang out and invite him. Don't be so completely hopeless! have some faith and if he's not interested, dont get sad over that, the right guy IS waiting for you out there. i promise!
My mother is always smothering me. I’m a 14 year old girl and she bugs me every time I’m out with friends. She’s always asking who I’m with…where I’m at…and what I’m doing. I want to be able to go out and have fun with out her bugging me every two seconds about where I am and what I’m doing. Why is she so weird about me hanging out? She knows all my friends.
- Holly, 14
I have a lot of friends whose moms are protective of them. Try and look at it from your mom’s point of view. She cares a lot about you. You are her “baby” and always will be. People do some crazy things out in the world and your mom is just trying to watch out for you and protect you. She trusts your friends but not the people out there in the world you run into when she can’t be there to protect you from harm. If you think it’s still a little too much sit down with her and talk with her. Tell her how you feel in a calm voice and show her how you see it. Make deals with her, for example, if she calls you every hour tell her to text you or call every hour instead. Then keep making deals with her and keep giving her details about what your doing, how much fun it is, all that. I guarantee you she will start to give you more slack when you’re hanging out with your friends.
Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex while I was on my period and then again the last day of my period. Recently I have been having really bad cramps. Is it possible I could have gotten pregnant from those 2 days of intercourse.
- Nikki, 16
well even if you are on your period, you can still get pregnant so there is a chance. Go take a pregnancy test and see for sure. But sometimes girls just get cramps randomly so it just might be horomones. But i would def. suggest you go take a a prego test to know for sure.
I found out in september than I am pregnant. The father is my best friend and I wasn't looking to have sex. He recently broke up with me because we were always fighting about him living far away. I wanna keep the baby now and am living with my father again. But he says he'd kick me out if I ever got pregnant before grad. My now ex-boyfriend is now just scared and feels alone because of his abusive parents and me being too far to help him. EVERY friend I tell calls me a slut, a liar or an attention whore. I can't abort it, I am chirstian and I'd never forgive myself because its not the baby's fault. And adoption ... I'd ALWAYS wonder where my baby was.. I couldn't. I know its HARD but its my responiblity... what should I do about all this? my ex... my dad... the baby...
I've your in a very hard situation but if you want my personal opinion...i think with where you are in life, keeping the baby is not a good idea. adoption would be the best choice and you WILL know where the baby is because you can get an open adoption where you can stay in contact with the adoptive family and even get pictures and updates. really pray and think about this. visit LifetimeAdoption.com if you want more info on the adoption process and such, and dont be afraid to ask the ladies there questions. good luck!
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Okay, so there's this guy...lets call him...mike* (not real name :P) and i've liked "mike" for about 2 years and he's a major player. like he flirts with me sometimes and last saturday night me and him were wrestling and he had his arm around and was hugging me all that night, but then after that for this past week he's been completely ignoring me...it's like he leads me on and then just leaves me in the cold! what do i do?! i want him to want ME... :(
If you know hes a major player then why would you want that for yourself? Honestly, you could do better, you dont want a guy who is more into lots of girls that just one, you want a guy who is all about YOU, not the whole school. Sure he's cute and irresistible, but thats how those gold digger boys are. Just be careful girl
I like this guy but I have no idea if he likes me back. It seems like he does but then again I'm not sure. He's my bros friend and is on his baseball team. I want to tell him but I don't know how or when. It's really upsetting me.
are you and your brother close? maybe he could talk to your friend and see if he feels the same way that you do? if not then maybe casually flirt with him, if he doesnt catch the hint then he may not like you or is just oblivious lol. if he likes you enough he'll show you. so just flirt with him here and there but dont over do it or anything, show him your interested but dont be easy to get. play hard to get :)
So Im only 17 and I just found out the other day that i am prgro what do i do im to scared to tell my mom because im the oldest out of 5 kids and i really don't wanna hurt my mom and i know that if i tell her than she will probably be really mad at me what do i do? How do you think i should tell her? Should I tell her through a text message or what
i dont recommend telling her via text message, i say sit her down calmly and tell her real calm. just ask for her support. What do u plan to do? Discuss that with your mother as well. Its hard having a child at such a young age so really think what is best for the child. Does the father know? let him know as well if not. Good Luck!
How can i get a boyfriend this summer? when i'm shy, and picky when it comes to guys...
Im the same way-and i found an amazing guy! i am shy when it comes to guys and actually i encourage girls to be picky, not too picky-there's not perfect guy out there but just try to hang out with some friends. or just see which one of your guy friends would fit, thats what i did, cuz my bf now was actually kinda a friend, we didnt talk much but tons of my friends were friends with him and now we've been together for about 6 months-so dont get discouraged or anything, keep looking, it takes time
i am a teenage mom already and i am living with my mother in law and my boyfriend. i was on birthcontrol nuva ring but since i moved out from were i was originally living i dindt have anymore insurance and so i couldnt get more birth control. i recently applied for health plus but i cant go to a doctor yet without insurance and i cant get birthcontrol. me and my boyfriend was sexually active and i think i might be pregnant again. i went to cvs to see how much was the plan b pill and it was 50.00 but the lady told me to go to planned parenthood and i had to go the next day .. im really scared i cant be pregnant again im scared because i took it on the third day i was suppose to get my period on the 13th and its already the 19th and im still not getting any period cramps..=( im soo scared... i had high risk pregnancy too and the school that i used to go to had homeschool but now im living in the city and theres no homeschool.. im really worried about school i only have 1 year left and iff im pregnant im going to have to drop out because my high risk the doctor said i would be like that with all my pregnancies .. im soo scared=( but please help me calm my nerves can u tell me if it works ? does it make my period come late? and how late im soo scared please write back asap=(
I've heard that the plan b pill is effective within 3 days of the sex so you are probably fine, and if you got off your birth control lately, sometimes it can mess with your period such as causing it to come early or late, so dont be too worried. if you truly think that you might be prego again, the clinic, such as planned parenthood, has free pregnancy tests yo can take so don't hesitate and go in and check for sure. If you do happen to be, have you considered adoption? that would be the best think for your child, because from what it sounds you already have your hands full with your first child and school and just being a teen in general. Hope i helped
i Think i might be pregnant because i started taking birth control pills then on the third day of the pill i had sex but i stop takin them because they made me feel sick and i cam on period this month and i came on today on march 21,2010 and its not like my usual period its more dark and light what do this mean? Can you help please !
- Kristi, 15
i don't think your pregnant, because if you were, you wouldn't be having your periods at all, the birth control pills might just be changing the color, and sometimes the blood changes. So nothing to be worried about, your not pregnant. :) Its good your being responsible with having sex. Maybe talk to a doctor about the pills and try taking another type of birth control.
My mom never spends time with me and my little brother- we are always at my grandma's house- I am afraid when she works late and doesn't get home and when she does she smells like she has been drinking- what should I do?
- Vanessa, 15
Maybe confront her about it. Or talk to your grandma to talk to her about it. Try to set up some fun things to do with her and your little brother, like a day trip or a weekend trip.
I like this guy in school, he's new and someone told him i was in love with him, which is totally true! He stares at me! and i want to be flirty around him but if i am i'm going to be even more obvious!, he looks me in the eyes very sweetly we havent talked AT ALL but we smiled at each other a couple of times, do you think he likes me back or is he just fooling around with me!?
Well what is his personality like? Is he a goof ball and joking all the time or is he semi-serious, because that could tell you if he truly has a thing for you or is just being a fakey. but to me it sounds like he could rly have a thing for you, so start talkin to him girl. Sparks may happen :)
I don’t know what to do- I am a few months pregnant, I don’t have a car and I am staying my mom and her bf in a trailer- at night I sleep in back of the truck. it has a camper shell and can get hecka cold even with a heater. Its rly hard to get up in the morning. I know she will kick me out if she finds out I am pregnant.
Is there somewhere I can go to get help, I can’t raise a baby and I want to stay with my mom...
- Katie 19
Hmm this is hard, try to sit your mom down when she’s in a good mood and tell her, you’re gonna have to tell your mom sooner or later if you want her through it all. Hopefully she’ll help you through this all and give you the support you need. Here is where you can get some help: Pregnancyhelponline.com and Lifetimeadoption.com they have housing options and can help you with advice on telling your mom if you call them – the phone # is on the site. Good Luck!
Hi so I think im pregnant but im not sure and my period is supposed to come in 2 weeks and im already having cramps and nausea. what should i do??
If you are truly worried you can always go get a pregnancy test or go to your doctors. The cramps and nausea might be early signs of getting sick or your just gettin your period symptons early. But gettin a pregnancy test would be your best chance to be sure on whats going on.
I can;t give medical advice,so see a doctor or nurse as soon as you can to easy your mind. Good Luck, talk to me again if you have any other concerns or questions
Okay I am 16 and pregnant and looking for just the right family to be parents to my baby. I feel really ugly and fat right now. I know im not ugly but I feel like I am and I still have months to until the baby is born, my belly is really big, my bff says I am pretty , but and im scared any adoptive parents will be really turned off by the way i look and not want to adopt my baby. how do i get over this feeling and bring my confidence up.I need to feel better. What should I do?
I’m sure plenty of teen moms feel ugly when they’re pregnant. But I’m sure you look fine. If your bestie is telling you that you look pretty, trust her with that, after all she IS your best friend right? And don’t feel scared parents will turn you down, if a couple wants a baby bad enough, they really wont care what the baby MIGHT look like, they wont mind what you look like. Some will get specific with skin tone and such but those are the super picky type. But don’t worry, you’ll find the PERFECT family for your baby hun.
why haven't i start my period?
Some girls are considered "late bloomers" which means you might just start your period a bit later than other girls. thats perfectly alright, some start very early and others start later. You'll start it sooner or later. If your really concerned about this, you can go see your doctor and ask him/her for further questions about it. But I'm sure you'll start soon. Hope I helped!
Hi, um well this is hard to say...okay well I know for a fact that this guy (lets just call him "Paul") likes me. Now... right around the same time I found this out, I started liking Paul. Well, to make a long story short, the whole school found out that we "like" each other. The only thing is that I don't know if I really like him anymore. I mean he is cute I guess.... we want to go to the same high school, we have a lot in common... it's just that #1 we have known eachother since kindergarten and #2 idk if I just like him because he likes me..... I NEED HELP
Sometimes its very hard to tell whether you truly like like a guy or u just like him cuz he likes u. if u think that may be the case, it probably is. really think if u like him for alot of reasons or just cuz hes cute. if its just cuz hes cute then u dont really truly like him and movin on may be the best idea. Im sry the whole entire school found out, thats no fun but most people will end up forgettin it sooner or later.
I have a boyfriend and I want to get pregant so I live with him but my mom is very strict so what do I do
- Cassie, 14
Getting pregnant at your age is not a wise idea. Your still growing up and you should enjoy your young life. You have alot of life to live before you should be thinking about having children. So be safe and enjoy the time you have right now as being a kid and don't go to fast with! :) Taking care of a child is A TON of work. even ask your mother. Good Luck!
I found out I was 10 weeks pregnant I want an abortion because i don't want to live this way I'm a baby myself and I wouldn't want to have to be carry a baby around I hate the fact of a abortion but I think its the best thing I'm not ready for a baby my mom would kill me and be very disappointed in me I'm scared and don't know what to do my mind in lost I wish I would of used protected sex and wasn't so dumb can you help please?
Abortion is the first thought when an unexpected pregnancy happens to teens, but its really not the best option, is what i personally think. If you don't like the thought of abortion, they don't do it. I know its gonna suck that you would have to tell your mom about it, but who said lifes easy? I think adoption would be very best for your child. I'm glad you know that your too young to be a mother, alot of girls think they're ready at this age and they're just not, so i'm glad you realize that, so if you were to put your baby up for adoption, two very loving parents could take care of your baby, and if you can have an open adoption where you can see the baby as they're growing up. If you want to know more about the process and such, a great adoption agency would be. LifetimeAdoption.com . They're very helpful! You can also get a book about how adoption works for free...at this website: FreeAdoptionBook.com. All you have to do is fill in your email address and the download will come straight to your email inbox. You can also talk to some other girls that have been in this situation before you decide on adoption by calling toll-free 1-800-9-ADOPT-4.
Good Luck hun.
And try not to be so hard on yourself. Remember, everything happens for a reason!