Relationship Questions & Answers

this guy i like knows i like him, he also told me he likes me... but this was 2 months ago. now he flirts here and there and usually teases me frequently by sending me pics of brownies! he doesnt wanna ruin a relationshop but is very into school so he doesnt talk to many ppl on weekdays. except me. He also sometimes doesnt answer though. and he always tries to ask stupid things as jokes by asking me who i wud go out with. then he asks if i would go out with him and then smiles and says" jk u dont have to answer that." Everyone of our freinds thinks he likes me as well considering he changed my facebook password to his name. Do you think he does?
-Samantha, 14

Samantha,
Sounds like he is just being flirty. If he truly liked you he might have gone for it by now. He may like you but doesnt want a relationship. Try talking to him about it. Or invite him out somewhere or with other friends to the movies or dinner or something and see how things go.
-Jewelz

He is 17 and im 16. he told me that he liked me about a month ago and told my best friend he liked my personality and thought i was pretty. He also told her he was afraid of a long distance relationship. Also i found out another girl who he and i are friends with told him not to ask me out or she would not ever talk to him. Now he still somewhat flirts with me but i think hes over me. Is there a chance or should i move on?
-Ashley

hi Ashley,
He sounds kind of shallow and if i were you I'd move on. If he really liked you he would be trying harder. If you DO want to try, then play hard to get. Act like him talking to isn't a big deal, if he really liked you it will drive him nuts. lol But if you think he's not worth it then I'd say move it on.
Good Luck!
-Jewelz

my boyfriend is wanting to catch up with this girl who he's friends with, wihch im fine with him hanging out with girls and all that when we first started dating i knew that this girl had feelings for my boyfriend, which "apparently" pasted, though a month or so later my boyfriend admitted to having a crush of her. nothing came from it obviously, since we're still together.. i just am really not into the idea of them spending time together at all, purly because im afriad of them gaining feelings etc again.. :( is it wrond for me to put across how im feeling, and not won't him to catch up with her, even though he says its purly a friendship thing??
-Madyson, 17

Dear Madyson,
Your feelings about this situation are natural and I definitely don't blame you. I would be very uncomfortable about it. Tell your boyfriend how you feel and ask him if he still has feelings for her, if he does then recommend that its not appropriate for them to be hanging out and if he makes a huge deal over it then he's not dedicated to you and that's not a healthy relationship. Be smart and strong!
-Jewelz

I had a boyfriend but he dumped me because i wouldn't kiss him. And he was telling everyone that i am frigded, but i didn't kiss him because i am worried that i will kiss him wrong. How will i be able to kiss him?
-Hailey, 13

Dear Hailey,
If a boy dumped you for that, then he's not worth it. Thats dumb, you never have to do anything you don't want to. And if your not ready to kiss someone then wait till you are. Kissing isn't hard, it comes natural and its ok if you want to wait. So move on from this boy is what i say, hes being kind of rude about it all. Good luck!
-Jewelz

Dear Jewelz,
Well I had broken up with my ex and ive been trying to get over him. I will wake up in the morning not wanting to do anything. Im not as happy as i used to be. I cant seem to get over him and i feel so stupid. He has a girlfriend and i have a boyfriend, but i still have feelings for him. What should I do?
-Sabrina, 14

Dear Sabrina,
break ups are soooo difficult, have you considered seeing a counselor? that may be a really good idea so defiantly think about that. next, why do you have a bf if you are not over your ex, thats not fair to ur current bf, if you are not all for him, in a way you are kind of using him, hes a rebound, maybe be honest with him and try being in a relationship later when you are truly over your ex. 
-Jewelz

Dear Jewelz,
this is my senior year of high school and i've never had a boyfriend. ever. close friends of mine have had boyfriends (without even trying) and always suggested different things i can do to try and get guys to notice and like me. it has never worked. so as a senior resolution i decided if i ever got a crush, i would at least ask him to hang out with me and let things play out from there. much to my luck, there's a guy new to the school (new to the state!) in my homeroom that i thought was really cute. so i started plotting. 'maybe if i get to know him better i might think he's pretty cool. and i'll be able to ask him out.' and he is cool. i've developed a little crush on him, nothing big, but a crush none the less. but there's one problem. My friend J just informed me he likes her & theyve been hangin out. more than once, i’ve lost crushes to friends. i didn’t mind so much those times because my friends didn’t know i liked them. but this is the first time a friend of mine asked out my crush despite the fact she knew i liked him. i’ve talked to her about it and she said she would still agree to date him because ‘it wouldn’t make sense if all three of us were unhappy’ which hurt me even more. i feel like she didn’t care about how i felt and how upset i was. my question(s) is this: how can i explain that she’s out of control without sounded jealous? (even though i admit i am, i am genuinely concerned for her.) why would she break my heart like that and still consider herself my friend? and what is so wrong with me that i can never get a boyfriend no matter how hard i try?
-Taylor, 17

Dear Taylor,
there is nothing wrong with u, the right guy WILL come along soon enough, just wait till college, its better to not have high school relationships anyway, they're kinda pointless. and your "friend"...i dont know if i would consider her a friend anymore, what she did was immature and just wrong to you. i cant imagine how hurt you feel, maybe talk to her and tell her nicely that it wasnt right what she did and tell her that u care about her but she needs to have some self control because what shes doing isnt healthy for her and its not helping your friendship with her. Talk to the guy still, barely flirt but become good friends with him, just cuz hes taken or whatever he is right now, doesnt mean that you cant still be friends with him. im sorry this happened to you and i hope everything get resolved soon, and keep your head high, maybe this guy is not the one for you, keep looking maybe? ;) Good Luck!
- Jewelz

Dear Jewelz,
My bf and I really love eachother-I know being 14 it's hard for people to believe that. But we are. And were thinking about me getting pregnant. His mom is trying to split us up, and the only way we know she won't do that is if I get pregnant. And I do want to have his kid. I just don't know what to do?
-Kiley, 14

Dear Kiley,
I know gettin pregnant may sound really exciting and all, but babies and all that is meant for when your older and married and have your life figured out and you know what you want to do with your life. At 14, your just starting high school and you will be going to college soon, you really should be looking forward to that for now until you are old enough to have children. In our day and age, 14 years old, teenagers, are not supposed to have children, we still ARE children. So really think about it, because you should really take in your childhood while you still have it. Enjoy being a kid now before you have to take care of kid. ;)
-Jewelz

 

Dear Jewelz,
i have a boyfriend thats 18 & we been together for 2 years and my mom is fine with it, she loves my boyfriend. But me and him fight alot and im just bummed and i want to leave but i dont want to. I suffer from depression for a long time and he thinks that i dont have it no more but secretly have days where i just wanna cry my head off and fade away and just get out of this life. i just need someone REAL to talk about all of this....
-Jessie, 16

Dear Jessie,
I totally understand what your feeling. I go through the same things with my boyfriend as well. Its very difficult. Have you talked to him about this? Asking him if he will really work on your guy's relationship? If not, i think that is a good start. Maybe plan a day for just the two of you to hang out, maybe a picnic or if you live near a city, go to the city for a day and just spend time together. If the chemistry is not still there, then maybe its not meant. But don't just cry about it and not do anything about it, take action and do something! :)
Good luck!
-Jewelz

Dear Jewelz,
I have a question : I've never had a boy like me or at least I don't think so. I'm fairly attractive, good in school, some sports and have good friends. Do I have to worry about this or what? There are a few boys that I like however how do I let them know? What if they don't like me back? I'm from a small town so there's lots of competition. I just don't want to be rejected. What do I do?
-Cassandra, 14

Cassandra,
Well your still young and you have plenty of time for a guy to like you but you may be surprised by who may like you. If you like a guy, talk to him, flirt with him a little, don't over do it lol but become friends with him and get to know him, by doing that you'll truly see if he is right for you. A good thing to do is make a list of what you want in a guy and then try to find those things in the guy you like, hope i helped. email me back if you have further questions
- Jewelz

Dear jewelz,
I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months on and off. The 1st few months of our relationship were great. But then we fell apart. And now all we do is fight over really dumb stuff. He is my 1st love and I lost my virginity to him. And I am not ready to give up him up. He has cheated on me because he thought I was cheating on him and that caused us to break up for a few months. And then we recently tried working things out again. He has changed a lot and matured and so have I. But we still seem to get in fights. The fights are mostly over trust issues. I believe that deep down inside of me that I can trust him not to do what he did to me in the past. And he isn't the only bad guy. I have lied to him about some serious stuff. And I honestly dont know why i did. It's just the things we fight over are getting to the point where I think we may need professional counseling. The fights are getting to be everyday. I dont know what to do anymore about it.
-Jenni, 16

Jenni,
after being with someone fights do normally occur, alof of couples experience that. I think what you and your bf lack is communication which is sooo super important so try working on that, fights rly arent good so if they keep  happening maybe seek counseling. it is very difficult to trust someone after they have been unfaithful to you but you two need to sit down and really talk, one on one, a heart to heart serious calm convo on how u BOTH can improve on ur relationship for the best. have u two gone to ur parents for advice or a trusted adult? try that as well. good luck.
- Jewelz

Dear jewelz,
i recently got dumped by my boyfriend for the second time with the same excuse that he didnt love me anymore...and now i think i have feelings for my ex from 3 years ago,,,,,heeeeelllp
-Amanda, 17

Amanda,
if your having feelings for your ex and your current bf just dumped you, don't you think thats a sign? if your gettin sick and tired of being dumped by this guy then why not go back for your ex? What do you rly want? go for that, but make sure your not jumping from man to man, its healthy to take some time and enjoy your friends for a little bit and then rebuild yourself and go for a guy, just some advice :) Good luck hun!
- Jewelz

Dear jewelz,
well im confused dis boy has a girl friend and he kissed me and we been texin things and but in skool i see him wallkin in the hall ways with his gf but when he looks at me he smiles and just looks like he loves me but idk and i see him sometimes and we hug and now i see him and his gf hasnt been holding hands or kissin much so what do you think tha means? and do you think i should just let him go?
-Melissa, 15

Melissa,
yes def. let him go. hes a player and thats so unattractive so dont waste ur time. don't u want a guy who is dedicated only to u?? i would. so dont waste anymore time on him and show him that your better than that and that you deserve so much better. hes gonna get hurt one of these days because of him being like this. so be strong. 
- Jewelz

Dear jewelz,
hi, well,it turns that i had recieved a call from my ex boyfriend from 4years ago that i still love,but when he called me he still said i love you and that he had moved away..my question is why is it so hard for me to let him go?
-Jenni, 17

Jenni,
was he a long term boyfriend? or a first? Usually your first bf or longest sticks a long time and its hard to move on. Maybe try to occupy yourself with some hobbies and fun things. He'll always be in your heart but one day you'll find someone else and you won't think about him as much or the same way, so hang in there, we all go through this same thing.
- Jewelz

Dear Jewelz,
I hate my life. I'm constantly having to consider suicide. My mom breaks me down more and more every day and I'm not sure if I can take it any longer. Tonight I am grounded because I stayed in my room too long. All she can do is call me names, she reminds me of such a child. My dad agrees with me and my parents are not together. I will explain to him what happened and he will finish my sentence because she's repeating everything from the past. I have big school dreams and want to eventually get my PhD in Greek Mythology. To her this idea is very stupid. She always tells me I have stupid ideas, and I'm a hermit that acts like a loser. She says that I'm not normal and I don't do anything normal kids like to do. I'm so emotionally drained. I love going to school and I hate the end of the day when I have to go home. You have to believe me, I'm begging you. Help!
-Abbie, 14

Dear Abbie,
Wow, I'm so very sorry your mother acts like this. Ugh! So why can't you live with your father? Have you thought about asking him to have full custody of you? I think that would be the best idea, if not, maybe consider going to a boarding school. Being away from other family and friends is hard but if it will help you, then it may be the best idea. Also have you ever considered seeing a therapist with your mom? Maybe sit her down and ask her kindly if you can both go to a therapist so you can sort things out and hopefully she can straighten up a bit. It could help tremendously. She may not be willing to go and if thats the case maybe you could just go by yourself and learn how to cope with her. Many people go through this very same thing with loved ones they know and its never easy. Whenever she calls you a name, or says something uncalled for or rude, ignore it, obviously she just feels she needs to take things out on you and since your the closest to her, she's gonna do that to you. So don't take what she says real seriously, when it comes to the name calling and such. Don't come back at her. Show her love and maybe she'll be caught off guard or something. You never know. Good Luck!
- Jewelz

Dear Jewelz,
i was just wondering if it was legal for a 13 year old to date an 18 year old. i was wondering also if i should tell my mom tht my 18 year old boyfriend fingered me and we sorta told a lie to her about it
-Ashley

Ashley,
I'm pretty sure you can date him and it won't be illegal. Just don't be sexually active cuz even though its not illegal there for a 13 yr old and an 18 yr old to be sexual there, it is here and he could get in alot of trouble, and your 13 and have a long life ahead of you to wait for that kind of stuff. But if you are considering dating an older boy that is 18, like the one you are interested in, please be careful, boys that age can easily take advantage of girls as young as you so be wise! ;) And for your second question-I don't know your mom, if she's the type that will be ok with what you tell her you and your boyfriend do, then sure, if she freaks out easily and stuff, maybe keep those things personal, but please be very careful with your limits.
- Jewelz

Dear Jewelz,
Im 11 and i had a baby and the dad dont want nothing to do with her and i tryed everything to make him to stay and help me but he just got up and lefted and i only have my sister and mom but they both work and i have to go to school and i dont know who will whatch her i tryed to sign her up for daycare until i get out of school and they wont let me so i need a baby sitter
-Cienna

This is really hard, have you talked to the father's parents? Do you have some close family friends who are either willing to hire you to do some work for them or help take care of your baby? Another option is talking to your mom about maybe doing home studys/homeschooling during the first few years of having your baby. One other option that you may not even want to think about but would probably be the best to consider is adoption. Your only 11 and you are so young to be taking care of a baby as a mother. Adoption is the most responsible and wise thing you can do for your baby in this case. it will most likely be the best thing for your baby in the long run. You can have an open adoption which means you are able to see your child whenever you like and as they grow up. For more information about adoption you can visit, www.LifetimeAdoption.com. they are great and can give you a tremendous amount of help. Good luck with whatever decision you make!
-Jewelz

Dear Jewelz,
Hi, I've had a crush on a boy for 2 years. He told me he loved me too and of course I'm not old enough to have a boyfriend (not allowed). My Best Gal-Friend on the other hand is. Me and my crush were getting along great and everyone knew we were together. My Best friend had sent him an email one night telling him that she loves him more than I love him. She Started acting so innocent and flirty. I've seen my BFF with guys before and plus she's popular so they always make a big deal when she loves someone. So now I think he likes her more than he likes me. I see him looking at her and he never pays attention to me! I don't want to have to see him drifting farther and farther away from me! :-(
-Lizzy, 13

Lizzy,
thats really hard and i'm very sorry :( but if a guy isn't 100% into you, if he's not for you all the way, he is not for you! you deserve wayy better! Don't wait around for this guy who isn't willing to be committed to you! I know its hard to let go, but you should really think about what you want in a guy and when the guy comes along you'll know if he is truly for YOU and not just kinda for you. you know what i'm saying?
Good Luck!
-Jewelz

Hi Jewelz,
I have a bf but he is older than me...he's 30. I love him & we have been together for 1 year and 4 months now and every body keeps on sayin that he is too much older than me and that he is going to leave me when he get what he wants. He's asked me to marry he twice already...I love him cause he makes me laugh, he is kind, and he helps me when I am down. I love him and he loves me too...should I leave him because of what other people say? or should live my life to the fullest?
-Sasha, 17

Dear Sasha,
i think thirty years old is a bit old for a 17 yr old girl...and there is alot of an age difference, but if he makes you happy and nobody's opinion will change your mind then i guess do what your heart says. Please be careful because you never know when he could all of a sudden take advantage of you. its not a rare thing that happens so be very careful girl. Good luck!
-Jewelz

Ok so I a have super major crush on my bff's new boyfriend. Everyone can tell their relationship is getting rocky and we all doubt it will last much longer from what I see. We hang out like every single day she is always asking me for advice about him because I have three big sisters and she doesn't know that many people cuz she is new at my school.

 Also, to make things even harder, the boy has also dropped some hints to me that he thinks i am cute, nice, and sexy (but in a sweet way, not creepy like i kinda made that sound creepy but it isn’t that way) He is really sweet and cute. I want to do the right thing and I like my bff and don’t want to hurt her feelings. So, I have some questions to ask help with.

What should I do when she asks me for advice about him? If they break up, what is the etiquette for how long I should wait to ask a guy out? Is this totally weird and I need to move on? And keep her as a friend? Any advice on the situation?
- Pam

When she asks for advice, put yourself in her shoes and take it from there, tell her what you'd do, don’t think about who the boy is (cuz you like him) but be true and honest and helpful. And i think you need to wait till she is over him and then ASK HER for her permission, because dating a friends ex is a no no unless they honestly don’t mind.
- Jewelz

Ok so my boyfriend asked me about sex the other day. what should i say ?? My boyfriend and i were talkin the other night and he started askin me about sex. like what i would do wit him and what i would let him do. im 13 and he is too but idk if im quite ready to move into that phase of our relationship. i need help !! i honestly dont kno what to do.
-Bree

Then tell him that-be honest, if he doesn't take your answer well-thats super disrespectful-so make sure he respects your choices, hopefully he will have self control. Its good your waiting, wait as long as you can or until your married ;) it will be worth it
-Jewelz

Dear Jewelz,
my older sister is so rude and mean; she took my head phones, she makes me so angry. what do i do? sometimes i just want to beat her up!
-15 and angry

Dear 15 and angry,
I know how your feeling, my room mate is such a pain and i feel the same way about her too. But i can guarantee you that most sisters go through this, its normal and as you both grow older and more mature, it won't be as bad, but instead of reacting in an angry or aggressive way, be all nice and just say hey can you not do that again, it will catch her off guard and she'll feel worse for it, cuz if you keep getting super mad and stuff, she'll keep doing stuff cuz she probably enjoys the anger it gets from you too. my brother use to do stuff like this just to see me get angry and frustrated. so just really try to not let out a lot of steam in front of her at least, when your alone, you can let it out, or vent in a journal, if you feel you must just let out your steam. I hope I helped-feel free to write again if you have more questions! 
-Jewelz

Dear Jewelz,
My older brother met a girl thru MySpace, and they have been an item now for four months. She lives in Texas, and we live in California; they chat online together every night. I am worried about my brother, what if this girl is fake? Why can't he have a normal relationship?
Ashley, 14