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Some questions are too sensitive or embarrassing to share with your parents, but you need to kno; right? Maybe you want to talk about a relationship issue that even your friends shouldn’t hear about.  Teens Help Online is a website that allows you to ask the questions and share the personal stuff, without judgments. My name is Jewelz and I know where you are coming from! Either I have been through it, or I know someone who has or can find out for you.

Isn’t it time to trust someone? Below you'll find questions that teens have asked me; join the convo and ask me your question!

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Crush on bff's boyfriendDear Jewelz,

I just found out, that I'm 4 weeks pregnant, and abortion is not a choice my boyfriend and I will be willing to make. I have no idea how to break it to my parents. My mom has already said, " if you want me to die, just go get pregnant, because I'll have a stroke on the spot." They have got to be the least understanding people, especially in this case. I need help. I don't know what I'm going to do. I don't know how to tell them.

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- Staci, 15

Dear Staci,
This is always a hard thing for teens to tell their parents but it HAS to be done. They may be upset but you need to stay strong. Have you thought about maybe adoption? really think about that choice and discuss it with your bf and with your parents once you tell them. If you want to talk to somebody more about adoption or just learn more about it visit www.lifetimeadoption.com
Be strong no matter what!
Good Luck
- Jewelz

Pregnancy Help Online is here 24 hours a day to answer your question about your pregnancy choices, such as making an adoption plan. Just call 1-800-923-6784. You can also use our confidential live chat throughout the day to answer your questions about adoption:

 

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Disclaimer:

To all my friends new and old, I want to remind you that I am 19 years old and not a professional therapist or doctor! I have been told that I have a clear head and can help people see things in a new way, but please don’t consider my ideas as a substitute for a genuine medical consult.

If you have a problem or question, it can be safer to talk to someone like me; no judgments and no rumors posted all over Facebook! I call it like I see it and I really do care. You deserve a balanced opinion and I will do my best to answer your questions.

However, I know just enough to realize that I don’t know much! Take my input, and then think for yourself. In the end, you must do what you feel is right!

Also, if you are feeling depressed, sick or think you may be pregnant, professional medical care is really important! There are many doctors and counselors that will see you for free or at a rate you can afford. You are worth it!

Love,
Jewelz

Ok so I had unprotected sex and when he was about to pull out some went in .. I usually start my period on the 15 of every month . Never irregular . But I never started . Today I am a week late . My breasts are sore and have gotten darker . I'm sleepy all the time . Quite moody .. I have little to no discharge. I ge mild cramps but nothing severe . I'm scared and don't know if I'm pregnet ?!
-Alexis, 14

Hi Alexis,
some of those symptoms do sound like pregnancy symptoms. My advice would be to first go get a few take home tests and see what they say, then go see your doctor as well. The pull out method is not a good alternative because there is pre cum as well which can get you pregnant so always use either birth control or condoms as protection next time!
- Jewelz

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So I'm 14 and the other night I was pressured into having sex. He used the "pull-out" method because we didn't have a condom, but I still know that some of it got in me. I'm very scared:(( help!?
-Taylor

Dear Taylor,
you should never be pressured to do anything! just say no if you are unsure about something. Maybe go get a pregnancy test just to make sure and go get tested to make sure he didnt have anything. Have you talked to a trusted adult about this? it would be a good idea, just for support and help. your young and this is scary. Be strong!

- Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
I have a question and its really bothering me. Recently this morning my boyfriend and i just had sex. we didnt us a condom but he pulled out so he wouldnt cum in me. well after that it happened again but he wiped himself off with a shirt down there, but we waited for like 20 minutes. he went back into me without a condom, do i have a chance of being pregnant? i really hope not. but please let me know what you think of this!
-Emily, 15

Hi Emily,
Yes there is still a possibility. Even the "pull out" method can get you pregnant because there is precum. You should always use a condom and/or birth control as well. Take a pregnancy test to make sure you aren't pregnancy but always be careful!
- Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
need help please help me VERY abusive relationship with my boyfriend please help
-Lauren, 17

Dear Lauren,
if you are in an abusive relationbship get some adults involved and have them help you even the police, maybe get a restraining order against him. Nobody deserves to be in an abusive relationships and there are ways to fix everything so you wont have to deal with this person, be strong and get some help with this person! Abuse is a very serious thing and im terribly sorry your going through it, be careful!
- Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
well i like this boy called kurt and i asked him out on facebook (he didn't reply) afterwards he told me in person by the canteen why i sent him messages on fb. a few days past and now we talked and laughed but then my friends said that kurt was teasesing them in a bad way. so i told him on fb leave my friends along. then the next day my friends said why did you say to kurt on fb leave my friends along.so then i got confused now hes saying to me shut up or gives me those looks like i murderd someone.
 please help me what do i do ?
- Holly, 13

Holly-
Kurt doesnt sound all that nice. So i wouldnt be friends with him if i were you. Im sure there are better guys than that out there. Look for a guy that respects you and your friends and family as well. A kind and caring mature guy!
Kurt is being a little too-faced i would say so maybe keep your distance and be careful girl
- Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
I have been living with my mom my whole life. She recently got divorced from my step dad. Right after she got divorced she started dating this guy who is ten years younger then her. I think she was seeing him when she was still married. So i moved in with my dad for a little bit(untill school was out, about a month).I liked it there. I dont like my moms boyfriend, but i do love my mom. At my dads, i have a little brother (my dads and his wifes kid). I like my step mom. My mom and dad are in different school zones. If i live with my mom I have to change schools(because she recently moved and bought a house with her boyfriend). If i live with my dad i can stay in the same school(where all my friends are). I dont know who to chose to live with. Can you please help me decide!
- Hailey, 15

Hailey-
from what it sounds, your dad's place would be much better and your probably leaning more toward that. My mom has gone through the same thing with divorcing my step dad and dating again and its rly hard and has effected our relationship but i dont have a dad to go stay with so you should take that opportunity and stay with your dad if thats where you truly feel comfortable :)
- Jewelz

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Hi, Im 17 years old and im 2 months pregnant, havent seen the doctor yet. i told my best friends and the father. The father is 18 and is not allowed to see me or anone under 18, court orders. My mom had her first child when she was 18 but i dont know how she will react to the fathers situation. My mom keeps asking me if i am but im too scared to say yes... i dont know what to do...
-Lauren, 17

Lauren,
Tell your mother! If anything, she knows what your going through and she loves you and wants to help you. So be brave and strong and you will be ok. Im sorry about the father, but it may be the best thing for and the baby if hes not around during the pregnancy. Have you thought about if you will keep the baby or consider adoption? If your afraid the father may be harmful to the baby after birth, maybe consider adoption or getting a restraining order or something to protect you and the baby. Good luck!
- Jewelz

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I have a 22 month old son


I have a question. I have a 22 month old son; I think it best he is placed with a family that can provide a good home and security for his future. My question is, will I have to get my own lawyer for his adoption and pay for it; I don’t have money for any thing?

Thanks,
- Danielle

You will not have to pay for any legal expenses yourself. The adoptive parents you choose should provide you with an attorney in your state.  I would recommend you speak to an adoption coordinator at 1-800-923-6784 about this to help you feel better.  There are tons of families that would be happy to help you find what you need and want in parents for your son. Try LifetimeAdoption.com too!
- Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
I have a boyfriend and hes really nice about anything I tell him even if its something bad. But I have a really bad problem...I'm pregnant and hes over age. It wasnt planned it just kind of happend at my friends party last month.I want to tell him so he can be apart of my babies life but im affraid he wont like what I have to tell him and he ends up making me get an abortion. I know he will never hurt me in anyway but we all know how men are. Hes over age and I dont want to have my mom find out just yet. Whats best for me and my baby??
-Vanessa, 14

Dear Vanessa,
first of all, nobody can make you do what you don't want to. so if he tells you to get an abortion, you don't have to and second, just sit him down when hes in a calm mood and tell him because he has a right to know and so does your mom. things like this happen so dont think your alone and just be strong! Your mom may be angry but just stay calm and dont argue back or anything. she might just need to get used to the thought or something. Have you considered your options? maybe adoption? if you are perhaps interested in adoption i highly recommend reading the book So I Was Thinking About Adoption for more information. ;) you can get a free copy here: FreeAdoptionBook.com.
Good luck girl!
-Jewelz

Pregnancy Help Online is here 24 hours a day to answer your question about your pregnancy choices, such as making an adoption plan. Just call 1-800-923-6784. You can also use our confidential live chat throughout the day to answer your questions about adoption:

 

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Im 16 and i think i might be pregneant. I am on the depo shot but i feel like it has failed. I started getting signs that i could be. I am very tired but cant seem the fall asleep or stay asleep. I get really bad lower back pains and at times get shrap lower stomach pains. I have been drinikng more and using the bathroom more. I want to eat more also. I think im getting a baby bump but i can really tell if thats what it is. I get headachs out of the blue and at times get really dizzy. I really want a baby but i dont want to have to tell my mom that is my biggest fear if i am. Do you think i could be pregneant? What should i do!!???
-Hannah

Hannah,
Have you been on any new medications? Sometimes that can cancel out the BC. Take a at home pregnancy test and see, or go see your doctor. Do you have diabetes that runs in your family? sounds like you might have that as well. Just go see a doctor and get things checked out. That would be the best thing to do. There might be side affects of the depo shot that your body is not used to or reacting to normally. Also try talking to your mom or a trusted adult about the symptoms.
Good luck!
-Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
okay, so i live with my fiance and i didnt have my period last month. im thowing up and craving stuff all the time. i took one pregnantcy test and it was possitive and i took another a few days later and it was negative. would that test be messed up or something? i have a supportive fiance and mother. but would being 16 and pregnant be a good thing for me, my fiance, and our baby?? please write back.
- Brittany, 16

Dear Brittany,
sounds like you most likely are pregnant. Being 16 and pregnant isn't the healthiest thing for your age especially if your just starting your life with your fiance. Have you considered adoption at all or discussed that with your fiance and mom? really think that through cuz that sounds like a great option for your situation. Good Luck!
- Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
I found out I was pregnant at the beginning of the summer this year. Making 25 weeks along. The guy that I was with was completely unfaithful, childish and not dependable. He is 21 years old. We split up shortly after we figured out I was pregnant because he wasn't acting like he wanted me or the kid around. His family are not supportive of the baby we are having. Now that we are broken up he acts like him and I belong together. Honestly, I dont feel that way. He has been spending money on making his car louder with exhust work and music systems in his car. He has nothing at all for the baby. I am scared that he is not ready for the baby at all and dont feel the baby will be safe alone with him and his family. I am worried for my childs well being. 
What am I to do? Is there anything I can do?
- Cassie, 14

Dear Cassie,
If he is not going to do anythihng for the baby, maybe ask if the only thing you ask of him is child support and thats it cuz it doesnt seem like he is able to do anything else. Child support would be the best thing to try to get from him and thats it, he doesnt sound mature enough to be able to take care of a baby at all so you kinda have to not expect much from him. but talk to him and possibly his family about child support.
Good Luck
- Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
Hi! My bf and I have been together for almost 2 years now. Recently I told him I need money for a pregnancy test. He was stressed out and looked extremely worried. I took the test and it was negative. The next day we had sex again, unprotected. Now, I want a baby. I am done with school, I have a steady job and income. I work with kids so I know how difficult it is to care for one 24/7. he knows I am not on the pill and doesn't seem to mind. How do I bring this up to him? In the past he has said no flat out but now he talks about kids a bit more openly and just yesterday he commented on how we've been having sex unprotected and he is surprised we don't have a baby yet. I need help! This is something I really want but I don't know how to approach him.
-Alyson, 18

Dear Alyson,
Maybe sit him down when he's not stressed about anything, and let him know exactly how you feel. He seems that he obviously loves and respects you and he should respect your feelings and thoughts. I think he knows by know that just about every woman wants to be a mother some time in their life and letting him know your ready might change his mind. Sounds to me that he kinda has been thinking about himself and thats a great sign! Have you two thought about gettin married at all? Marriage might be the first step you guys should take, the first commitment before making a commitment such as having a baby together. Good Luck, let me know what happens! :)
- Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
sometimes i feel like im just taking up space. no one knows, but i cry at least 4 times a week. theres only one guy i can seem to get, and he treated me terrible. i finnaly found someone that i love more than anything, but he doesnt even know. girls think ima slut, and guys dnt want me cause i wont have sex with them. everyone comes to me for advice, i give it to them. but i never really have someone i can tell everything to. the boy i love is my bestfriend, hes been there for everything, but i feel im not good enough. sometimes i feel like if i was to die today, everything would be the same tomarow. can you help me?
-Jana

Dear Jana,
I'm sorry your feeling this way, i've been through a similar situation when i was a little younger and its not fun. You might have depression problems, seeing a counselor may be a good idea. Lots of people have depression issues and don't even know it, so its very common. And girl, never say your not good enough for a guy, ever thought maybe,HE'S not good enough for you? I'm sure you are very special. have you ever just told your best guy friend how you feel? maybe he has the same feelings for you too... you never know, and if he's a true friend, and you tell him how you feel and he doesnt feel the same, he'll be respectful of it. If you want to try to figure out who is really good to talk to, think of all your friends and who is the most trust worth and faithful. Try finding a girl to talk to besides your guy friend because a guy is not going to always be able to see things from your perspective. But try smiling at people, it will brighten their day, and it will brighten your day, you'd be surprised. Maybe compliment people on their clothes or something. :)
Good Luck!
-Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
So about three weeks ago, I met this guy who is 21. Well we were hanging out most of the night, and eventually it lead to us having unprotected sex and it was the day after I had gotten off my period. I know what we did was illegal... but I don't know, we really like each other. and about four days later, I went back to see him and we had unprotected sex again. I haven't seen him for almost a week now, because him and two of his friends were arrested for breaking into one of there friends dad's camper. Now, I'm worried that I might be pregnant. I don't know if I'm having the symptoms or I'm just really paranoid. I've had cramps, and headaches, and my breasts are sore, and I've been having fatigue problems, and I'm always wanting to eat something, but most of the time I'm hungry but I can't eat. I told my parents that I might be pregnant, and my mom said she was going to force me to have an abortion if I am. I told her that since I decided to do it, I was going to take the responsibility and take care of the baby, and my mom flipped out and said if I refused to get an abortion, she would beat me until I had a miscarriage. My mom was the same age when she had me, and she's trying to force me to have an abortion if I am pregnant. Mostly I'm just worried and scared... I don't have any drug problems, but I frequently smoke cigarettes, and I used to occasionally drink. I'm just so worried about what to do. My parents are known for being violent towards me, and my father is a huge alcoholic. If I am pregnant, i don't know what I'm going to do.
-Amber, 16

Dear Amber,
this is a tough situation but i believe you can get through it, first i would suggest taking a pregnancy test to see for sure. and second i would say for the situation your in with an alcoholic father and abusive mother, keeping the baby would be a bad idea, i really think that adoption would be the best for this baby. Just really think long and hard about it. Its a good choice, but its ultimately your choice. Also, with your mom threatening that, have you considered maybe staying with a relative or foster home until your mother gets some help? Thats scary and you shouldnt have to go through that. So maybe do some research about what you could possibly do. Good luck and don't hesitate to ask more questions.
-Jewelz

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18 and pregnant!Dear Jewelz,
i need advice about my pregnancy... i am 17 yrs old i am 5 months pregnant, and lately i feel like my world is falling apart. I have so much stress on me, i don't have a job and neither does my boyfriend. i am about to graduate in 4 months, i still live with my parents, and so does my boyfriend we have been together for 6 yrs i love him... we just don't have money for the baby. he has been trying to look for a job , but no luck. his parents are not supportive at all it's like if they don't care i have also been looking for a job, but no one wants to hired me because of the stage am in.. my only plans are to continue with my school and not give up..
-Shawna, 17

Dear Shawna,
First of all, have you considered adoption? Many teens don't want to choose that choice but it truly is the best when you cant support a baby financially. It is hard but in the long run it can be the very best thing. Second of all, your not alone in this, many teens go through this, not having a job, enough money, support. Its a very hard time in your life. Its good your boyfriend is looking for a job. Do you or him have a friend's parents he can work for? Check out all your resources. All you can really do from now until the pregnancy is be strong and pray that your boyfriend can find a job quickly! Don't get too stressed about all of this because the stress can affect the baby. They sense it. So be careful :)
-Jewelz

Pregnancy Help Online is here 24 hours a day to answer your question about your pregnancy choices, such as making an adoption plan. Just call 1-800-923-6784. You can also use our confidential live chat throughout the day to answer your questions about adoption:

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Dear Jewelz,
I'm really scared. I just took 4 pregnancy tests and they we all positive and my boyfriend dumped me last week. What should I do?
-Jessica, 16

Dear Jessica,
Its natural to be afraid but you have to stay calm. Do you have a trusted adult you can talk to you? Do your parents know? tell your parents. Have you considered what you will do with the baby? can you take care of the baby? have you thought about possibly considering adoption? really think these things over and everything will be ok.
-Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
I had sex with my BF since 5 months ago; we never used condom because we always interrupted the coitous; and yesterday we did and he didnt interrumped it; so today i took an emergency pill but im not pretty sure if this works; i dont want to get pregnant and wait 2 weeks and do the pregnancy test either; im scared!! What can I do? Help me!!
-Nicole, 15

if you took a morning after pill within 72 hours then you are not pregnant. Those pills are a good prevention and work. So you shouldnt be worried but remember next time to use some type of contraceptive or consider not being sexual active. Having sex at a teenage age isn't the best idea but i understand that its hard to not. Good luck!
-Jewelz

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I chose adoptionI Just gave Birth 2weeks ago and I am getting ready to go back to school tomorrow. i know all the kids are going to be saying and talking about me and what I just did What do i tell them?
-Allison, 16

Allison,
whats most important about going back to school in your circumstances, is keeping a good attitude. Don't let everyones wispers bother you. Because what was done, is done, and its time to hold your head up high and move on. If someone insults you, stand up for yourself, because you are special and important no matter what they say. If people ask questions, tell them, its better than having a rumor spread around that isn't true right? That doesn't mean they need every single detail, just the simple facts. Never be ashamed of who you are, things are in the past now. Just keep moving towards your future, doing the best you can. Hope this helps you.
~Jaime

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Hey Jewelz,
omg well i kissed this guy and mii friend wants to fight me she throws stuff at me and told me that im trash and that i had to leave mii friends alone cuz they hate me but i really dont wanna fight her but she said if she sees me after school that shes ganna hit me and im not a puck i can fighg but she better not hit me!!!!!!!!!!and i cant do anything i just wanna cry....gosh i got problems right so what should i do
-Kristina, 13

Kristina,
dont go anywhere near this girl. it sucks she feels the way she does but thats her problem. dont respond to anything she might say to you. dont even look at her. pretend like shes not there and she might just give up buggin you. if things start to get worse, get an adult involved. Dont fight her back, just run, you wanna look like the better person.
-Jewelz

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Hey Jewelz,
I'm 17 I have a 14 week old son... My fiancee and I just found I'am pregnant again by a misshap again, we dont no what to do, he wants me to get an abortion or put it up for adoption, I know we dont have a lot of money but i could never do that what do i do in this case?
~Mariah

Mariah,
Wow that is hard. I believe abortion is a terrible thing to do to an innocent baby, and adoption actually would be your best solution. If you cant afford to have another baby, adoption would be the best for your baby. You can have an open adoption which means you get to visit your child as much as you want as they grow up. You get to know their adoptive family and such. For more information about adoption you can visit this great adoption facility: LifetimeAdoption.com. They have great help and even free counseling. It won't be easy to do this. If this is completely out of the question for you maybe consider finding a close, trusted family or friend or may be willing to adopt your baby. Let me know what happens or feel free to email me back for further questions. Good Luck!
-Jewelz

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My friend wants to get an abortionMy belly is bigger,I've been eating less,i've lost weight,I'm tired,I feel heartbeats in my stomach,I puked once.I took pregnancy tests on the internet.They said i'm probably pregnant.I took a at home pregnancy test.Which came out negative.I haven't missed my period yet.It's the beginning of the month and i usually get it at the end of the month.I can usually tell that i'm going to have my period but haven't been able to tell.Do you think i'm pregnant and what are the chances i am?
-Brooke

Brooke,
Hmmm, sounds like you could be but then it also sounds like your probably not. First, have you had unprotected sex recently? and second, would you be confortable to talk to your mom or another trusted adult about this where maybe they can take you to a doctor to see if you really are? How long have you been having these symptoms? you could be getting sick. and your belly gettin bigger might be you gettin bloated early for your period. Let me know :)
-Jewelz

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Hi Jewelz,
I had sex with my bf for the first time and the day after that . now the second time we had sex I was bleeding (I think it was my period) but then I was looking in my trash can & I looked at the condom that when we used first had sex & it has a hole (it popped) am I pregnant or is their any possibility that i'm not? please help me .both him & I are scared.
-Rianna

Dear Rianna,
The bleeding you had was from your vaginal hymen breaking, so don't worry about that, the bleeding is normal after its been broken open. The condom breaking is not good, did you get the morning after pill? If not it may be too late, the morning after will only work up to 3 days after the unprotected sex. You may want to get a pregnancy test to see if you truly are pregnant or not. Hopefully your not! Good luck!
-Jewelz

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Should I make the first move?

Dear Jewelz,
Should I make the first move? I have this crush and i know that he likes me cuz he told my ex and teacher and they wouldn't stop bothering me about it. But the day of spring break he didn't ask me for my number or email. He has a screename but hasn't gone on aim. Should i email him or should i leave it alone and not talk to him at all over break...?
-Heather, 16

No, make the first move! :) Let him see that your outgoing and not afraid and shy. Don't be afraid to be outgoing. Ask him if he maybe wants to hang out or do something fun over break. Good luck :)
-Jewelz

boyfriend

Dear Jewelz,
hi im ally and im 14. ever since i watched the show 16 and pregnant on MTV i want to have a baby when im 15 or 16 and me and my bf were talking about it, what should i do?ive been around babys a lot and my mom has a little girl 18 months and i take care of her more then my mom and i feel so loved to have a baby. Im just so confused.
-Ally

Dear Ally,
Honestly, your way too young to have a baby. Babies are meant to be born when your married, happy, and most of all READY for a baby. You may think your ready for a baby but at our age, as teenagers, we're still growing up and developing. We cant help a baby grow if we are still growing ourselves. we have school and ourselves to focus on still. It would be best if you and your boyfriend waited to have a baby till you were married and maybe in your 20's. Its good that your so good with babies too, that means when you are a mother someday you will have lots of experience. But for now, focus on being a kid and having fun with barely any BIG responsibilities. Be safe and
have fun in everything you do!
-Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
why am i so fat? and why cant i lose weight
-Hailey, 15

Dear Hailey,
Sometimes having a little extra can be genetic. I know for me it is, I have a little extra and it frustrates me at times but other times i embrace my curves. its a hard thing to do and it takes time. But try eating well and excercising. eat three solid meals, snack here and there on healthy things such as nuts, fruit, granola bars, etc. its better for you :) but sometimes its just genetic and ya gotta live with what ya got.
-Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,

i was in class today and iwas screwing around and my friends asked me to fake tripp and i said ok and my friend jessica was on the ground i wasnt going to hurt her but i was planning to fake tripp over somthing and make a fool of myself cause that who iam but my head was turned around laughing cause i was going to do it but then i wasnt paying attention and i accendlenty kicked jessica and i didnt mean to and i said srry cause i didnt want to get in trouble cause are school is really stricted and i didnt want to get suspended cause i was alreay suspended one time so i can home and i felt so guilty that i called jessica and told her every thing that im saying here and she said ok but i still feel like im going to get in big trouble and get suspended and i dont want that to happen and im affraid that someone is going to say " u should still tell on her" and yah so what can i do so i for sure dont get in trouble ?
-Lindsey, 13

Dear Lindsey,
well you told her already you were sorry and what happened so she should trust that u told her the truth and that you are truly sorry, maybe the next time you see her, give her a hug and apologize again. there isnt much you can do. You hopefully learned your lesson no matter what. if you get in trouble, thats just the way it will be. but i hope u dont. good luck!
-Jewelz

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MySpace relationship

Dear Jewelz,
I just found out that my older sister is pregnant. We are both very close
and she tells me everything. But she won't tell anyone else. She can't hide
it for ever and sooner or later our parents will find out. Our parents hate
it when secrets are being kept from them. they don't even like suprises.
What should I do?
-Torri

An idea you and your sister could consider is talking to your parents together, if she is afraid to tell them herself, she might need you as moral support, especially if you two are so close. Have her maybe write down how she wants to tell them or have her recite to you as if she was telling them so she’ll know exactly how to say it. It wont be easy for her but SHE needs to tell them, its important. She should also tell the father; that is so important that he knows as well. I think your parents will appreciate you two telling them and not holding back. At first they might be angry and shocked of course, but in the end, things will be ok. The best of luck to the both of you!
-Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
My period was late and all the symptoms were there for me being pregnant. But then, I started bleeding.At first it was light so I didnt think much of it, a few days later it gets heavier, my bf thinks I might of mis-carried..and now its lightning up(the bleeding is) I just have no clue whats going on with my body? Am i still possibly pregnant or not?
-Allison

Dear Allison,
I think the best thing to do right now is to go see your doctor about this and whats going on with your body. You just might had very well had had a miscarriage. But seeing your doctor will help you know for sure. Sometimes when woman actually do spot around whent their periods were supposed to be, and they can still be pregnant, but just go in and see. I am sure this is a scary time for you so try to stay strong and be careful!
-Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
i just found out im pregnant and i dont know how to tell the guy..first is because hes not or never was my boyfriend..and now he has a gf.. and i dont know wat to do
-Steph, 15

Steph,
First off, is this guy a good guy? would he step up as a father to this child or would he just not even care? think about that and if he would be a good father and support you and the baby, then i'd say tell him but if he won't even care and not be willing to help out, then maybe dont tell him. If you dont think he'll help out but you wanna tell him anyway, maybe tell him but don't pressure him to help out, even though he should! So really do what your heart is telling you to do. Have you talked to your mom & dad about what to do? maybe get their opinion as well. Also, him having a girlfriend shouldnt intimidate you, there is nothing you can really do at this point so just be strong girl, you will make the right choice!
-Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,

My parents fight a lot. They are stressed out I guess cause of the recession or something but it’s starting to make me feel horrible. They would have their fights here and there but it’s been getting worse lately. It makes me feel crummy when they fight. I don’t think they can see what it does to me. I want to know if there is something I can do to make them not fight. Is there anything at all?
-Jessica, 16

Jessica,
parents fighting is a very common thing, so don’t feel you are alone. Sometimes they have issues they need to work out on their own. As much as you would love to help them, let them work it out. When they fight its best not to listen to them because it tends to make you feel guilty like it’s your fault which it isn’t. Try and see if there are things around your home you can do to make it less stressful for them. Try to do all of your chores before they ask you to do them. Even ask them what you could do for them. When that’s done wait and see if that helps. If they continue to fight wait till they are about to have their next argument and before it gets too bad get their attention and tell them how it makes you feel. Look at them in the eye and illustrate how it affects you. Make them see it from your point of view. Tell them how it makes you feel. Then ask them to try and not let their arguments get to a level where they are screaming at the top of their lungs. Again, parents sometimes have those things you wish you could help with but you can’t. It’s their issue to deal with. Just have patience with them and go for a walk when they fight. Leave and wait till they are done. It’s best you not hear them fight. I hope your parents work things out on a healthy level that’s good for all of you. Good luck and remember it’s not your fault.
-Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,

Hi well i just found out i am pregnant, and father has been mentally abused me for a while.I dont know what to do i asked the father playing around that does he think about open adoption and he told me that he will take the child and make sure i never see it but he also told me he doesn't want to have a kid with me.I don't want to tell my dad and disappoint him i really don't know what to do
-Macie, 16

Macie,
i personally think open adoption is the best idea, if thats what YOU want, then do it. the father sounds like he is being a jerk and being irrational so idk if it would be a good idea to keep him in the picture as hard as it is, he just seems like hes gonna make everything more difficult. talk to your parents and discuss your choices with them. best of luck to you!
-Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
I have a baby and i had him at 16. My friend who is two years older than me had an abortion last march and when she told me it kind of upset me, and makes me feel weird around her because she gets to be normal and is older but I am younger and have to grow up. Am I being a bad friend?
-Katie, 17

Katie,
no, your realizing good things. I personally dont agree with abortion but i do believe in adoption. Have you considered adoption at all? If you want to have your normal teenage life back, adoption is a great choice, your child can get parents who are ready for a child, unlike a teen who still has a future of high school and college and marriage and etc. Just think about it, but no your not a bad friend, but think about the good things you have in your life!
-Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,
heyy im not pregnant but i am a mother and now i am living with my boyfriend in his mothers house .. im worried about college and i just wanted to know if theres any other program besides daycare because that, i cant afford ..
-Kayla, 17

Kayla,
sometimes colleges offer daycares and such, so maybe speak with a counseler on that at your school. Another option is if you have a family member, maybe you can pay them a little bit if they watch your child. Another option is doing college at home, online, so you can spend time with your child and save money but still be able to study and get school done.
I hope i helped!
-Jewelz

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Dear Jewelz,

Last year in school I didn’t do very great. I got low grades and bad test scores and this year I want to prove to everybody I can try harder and I’m not lazy like my parents say.  What are some studying tips you have for me so I can do better?
-Kassie, 17

Kassie,
The first thing you need to do is get an agenda to keep track of things that are due or you need to study for. Put the due dates and the materials you will need to study. Then devote about 10 minutes a night to study for a coming test or quiz. Then the night before the test day study for 30, to 45 minutes. When you study, study in a quiet, dimly lit place and read the things out loud to yourself. Sometimes, even standing and walking around and moving your body while studying can make you remember things better. Make up acronyms or associations so you can remember better. If you are one of those people that have trouble with testing remember to breathe and try not to think of it as a test. If your teacher lets you study before the test or quiz use that time to your advantage to review and refresh your brain and try your hardest not to talk with people before the test unless its related. Good luck and I hope you do excellent this year!
-Jewelz

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Hw do u cope with family problems?
-Taylor, 15

Dear Taylor,
a good way to cope with family problems is too see a counselor. Family counseling is wonderful but if your family doesnt agree to go all together then see if you can just go by yourself, it will help a lot. Another thing is to be positive no matter what, as difficult as it sounds it helps. Every family has problems so don't think your alone. If an issue gets too heated, walk away and come back to the problem later when everyone has calmed down. Try to do things to get your mind off what is going on and try to cheer yourself up such as seeing friends, going and getting your favorite Starbucks drink or even just going to a pretty park and relaxing a bit. Hope this helps!
-Jewelz

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I have a friend called Lucy who has a crush on a boy in our class called Ryan but Ryan likes my friend Beth and Beth likes him back. Beth went out with him secretly but When we were walking home from school they held hands and Lucy saw. Lucy came over and had an aurgument with Beth. Now they aren't talking or even going near eachoter. If i want to sit with both of them i can't so i would sit with one at break and the oter at lunch. But now they are annoyed with me because i won't spent all my time with one because they are saying i'm their best friend so i should but tey are both my best friends and i don't know what to do. Tis as been going on since about end of October and they have never fallen out for this long. PLease help us all be friends again.
-Hannah, 13

Dear Hannah,
Sounds like a pretty stressful situation and I know exactly how it feels. When this happened to me I did what i wanted and hung out with who i wanted. I let both of my friends know that im not taking sides but i disagree with how they're acting toward each other. If it becomes too much of an issue than just dont sit with either of them for a while and let them see how it is. Try talking to each one and encourage them to speak to the other about what happened and tell them that their friendship should be MUCH more important than some guy. Guys shouldn't be why friends break their friendship.
-Jewelz

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what do you do for major major depression?
-Steph, 15

Steph,
Depression is very common in teens, so you're not alone! I would suggest seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist and see if they can help you.
Good Luck!
-Jewelz

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